Covert Abuse
He tells you that your crazy and you question if it’s true.
He feels you owe him sex for all he’s done for you.
It doesn’t matter if your tired; He’ll start to punch the wall.
The way he treats you as an object makes you feel oh so small.
The way he uses you but seldom cares what you think.
You never feel understood. You’re totally out of sync.
When you tell him your concerns, he just insults you and scoffs.
You feel totally disgusted and you can’t shower his disrespect off.
He screams at you obscenities that never seem to end.
He takes away your car keys and forbids you to see your friends.
He makes you do all the housework and takes your money too.
You didn’t see all this coming. You didn’t have a clue.
He throws objects in a rage because you failed him yet again.
You fear no one will believe you if you speak about the pain.
This same man prays softly in church and others think he is a saint.
You just wish that he could treat you the way he does others with constraint.
The truth is he can, but he’s got you where he wants.
It’s about power and control that over you he flaunts.
If he makes you feel little it makes him feel more powerful still.
In his twisted mind when he mistreats you, it gives him a little thrill.
He may not be physically abusing you, at least not yet,
But he’s slowly taking over and filling you with regret.
He’s trying slowly to make it harder for you to leave.
And he’s slowly adding to the lies that he continues to weave.
There is no good reason to stay if you can escape the abuse.
It’ll only continue to get worse, and you will always lose.
There will be moments he promises he’ll change and offer you the moon.
But this is all part of the game that you are subject to.
Leave before he gets violent and that first punch comes.
You’ll slowly fail to recognize him as a monster he becomes.
Men like this are insecure and there is nothing you can do to fix him.
Statistically these men rarely change, and the outlook is dim.
Healthy relationships are built on respect and love, not power and control.
Your partner won’t sabotage you or your every action patrol.
They trust you because that is what normal people do.
You won’t feel like your living under someone else’s shoe.
Healthy relationships like this really do exist.
You won’t have to question in your mind when he might raise a fist.
Leave now when you can though I know it’s hard.
You’ll be ok even if you have to pick up the shards.
Reach out to those who can help you but be careful whom you trust.
Many will tell you to stay or tell you to adjust.
Worse yet some can betray you and make it more dangerous still.
Your secrets they may tell him and with it your safety spill.
But you’ve got this. Trust yourself. You know the answers inside.
Let your intuition help you and continue to guide.
You didn’t ask for this abuse; it’s not what you deserve.
How dare he treat you unkindly! How dare he have the nerve!
Please stay safe, seek help, and make your break when you can.
Don’t spend years in this madness, construct a solid plan.
I know you’ve got it in you to make the best choices that you need.
I trust you know what’s best, but please these words heed.
Things usually get worse with time in abusive relationships.
Leave as soon as is safely possible before your heart he rips.
Surround yourself with those who can support you and care.
I’m sending you much love and many earnest prayers.
©2025 Stephanie Blomquist
